Editorial:
How to "Think Success"
By
Derek Gehl

If
you have been subscribed to my newsletter for any length
of time, you should be familiar with my hands-on, "how
to" approach to Internet marketing and building a business
online.
You may have also noticed that I rarely venture into
the intangible, "emotional" side of being an entrepreneur...
... But today I am going to venture into the uncharted
territory known as the "Entrepreneurial Mind," in order
to help solve a challenge that some of you have described
on my blog as the #1 problem currently holding you back.
I think Jeff said it best:
"My biggest problem right now rests squarely
between my ears. It's learning to accept the fact that
it's OK to succeed.'
Now this may seem like a paradox... But I did a little
research on the subject and discovered this is a serious
problem that psychologists have been studying since
1915, when Sigmund Freud wrote an essay called, "Those
Wrecked by Success."
Freud noted the "surprising and even bewildering" tendency
of some people to fall apart "precisely when a deeply
rooted and long-cherished wish has come to fulfillment...
as though they were not able to tolerate happiness."
Turns out this is a serious problem that afflicts many
entrepreneurs, destroying their chances of success before
they've even started!
During my research, I came across story after story
of entrepreneurs on the brink of success... employees
on track for a huge promotion... and even businesspeople
who had already achieved massive success -- subconsciously
destroying everything they had worked so hard to accomplish.
Now, Jeff, I'm not going to get into the nitty-gritty
"psycho babble" that could be used to explain what drives
otherwise brilliant, hardworking people to self-destruct...
I'll leave that to the professionals. But I will say
this (and please note this is only my opinion)...
Awareness is probably your best medicine.
If you are aware that you may be cursed with a self-defeating
tendency to limit your own success, you need to consciously
remind yourself that this tendency exists and develop
a system to recognize it, avoid it, and extinguish its
power over you.
So what would such a system look like? Simple... here
are three steps you can take to 'let yourself succeed'...
1. Envision what success means to you --
then get it down on paper!
You don't have to write an essay. It can be an outline
or a list of bullet points that describe what you want
YOUR success to be like.
Remember, success isn't just about money! It goes far
beyond that. Your picture of success could include time
with family, time enjoying your hobbies, time on vacation,
etc.
2. Post your picture of success all over your
home!
Place it in obvious places around your home, in your
office, in your car, etc. Everyday you want to remind
yourself of what you want your success to be like. It
needs to be ingrained in your mind. Only then will it
start to seem real -- and
achievable -- to
you.
3. Believe
you can achieve it -- and live that belief every single
day!
Ever since I was a teenager I knew what success looked
like to me and since then I have never looked back.
That doesn't mean I had the highest grades in high school
(far from it, to tell you the truth)... nor did I skip
any college parties to study (even when I probably should
have!)
Instead, I knew what my success looked like, and I jumped
on every opportunity that came my way in order to achieve
that success. I took risks, constantly stepping out
of my comfort zone, and I never once let myself fall
into the trap of believing that I might not achieve
it.
Now, Jeff, I am not a psychologist, but I can tell you
that chronic self-defeatism is a real problem. If you
are going to be successful, you need to train your mind
to allow yourself to envision your success, believe
in it, and act on any opportunities that come your way
-- so you can achieve it!
You can have the best strategies in the world but if
you don't believe in yourself, then you'll never apply
them. And you'll never let yourself succeed.
Jeff, please don't fall into that trap!
For more information on this subject, here's a great
article I found on the CNN Money website:
http://money.cnn.com/magazines/fortune/fortune_archive/1996/07/08/214330/index.htm
This article definitely goes into more detail than I
am qualified to give. Hopefully it will help you overcome
yet another obstacle in your quest for online success!
Until next week...
Derek Gehl